Showing posts with label therapy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label therapy. Show all posts

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

True Callling

Quote of the Day:  Music...accesses both sides of the brain - the analytical left side and the emotional right side - and forces a connection. (p. 139)

Music Therapy is music without the ego. (p. 146)

- Jodi Picoult from her novel Sing You Home

Have you ever wondered if you're doing what you were born to do?  Have you answered your true calling?  Do you ever look at someone else's life/career, and think, that's what I really want to do? Or, are you one of the lucky ones who is doing exactly what your heart and abilities are calling you to do?

I just finished reading Sing You Home by Jodi Picoult.  I loved it.  I'll have to admit that I'd given up on reading Picoult's books because they're too gloomy for me.  She a fantastic writer of realistic contemporary fiction, heavy on the realism.  In fact, it is so real and raw that reading her books can feel like you've been watching the evening news for five days straight.  I can't stay in a gloomy place that long.  She writes about real people experiencing real life, and the way she has her characters interact is spot on.

So, I picked up the book with trepidation.  But, it came highly recommended by my cousin Angie.  In fact, she referred to it many times during our conversations about things we care about - aging, music, acceptance of all types of people, connections, relationships. And, I connected to the main character in the book right away.  She's a music therapist.  I kept thinking the whole time I was reading the book that I should have been a music therapist.  And, as I read further, I thought of how I already do music therapy, but without the degree and official title. 

I have kids come to my house every week to make music.  I talk to them about music, what they like about playing, and I also talk to them about what is important in their lives - their pets, their families, other interests, friendships.  I see them blossom as musicians and people.  I watch them gain confidence.

Spring Recital at the assisted living center

If you've been reading my blog lately, you know that I play at an assistend living center about once a month, and during the summer I've brought the handful of students who are taking summer lessons with me.  I see the sparkle of energy come out in both my students and their audience - especially in the memory care unit.  Yesterday, I interviewed a woman for an article I'm writing for Her Voice on Alzheimer's disease.  Her mom is in a facility, now, where she needs constant care for dementia.  While she was sharing her story with me, and talking about her mom, she was also talking to me about what I could so as a musician to help ease the pain of these patients and their families who love them.  What she emphasized is that you want your parent, or spouse or friends, to be taken care of by people who want to interact with them and show them love.

I have been talking with my sister Joy and dear friend JeMA about our vision of having an art center where we could teach, offer music and art therapy, and have original artwork and performances. We want a place that nurtures gifts and talents in ourselves and in others. 

Do you know that when people don't have the ability to communicate verbally, they can still connect with others through art and music?  They are another language, another way of expressing ourselves.  I have also heard of therapy in theatre. I can imagine movement and expression, both verbal and non-verbal, create stimulation and connection.

Oh, the possibilities...

Journaling Prompt:  What is your true calling?  Are you doing it right now, or do you feel pulled in another direction, or further in the direction you're heading?  What is it that gets your heart pumping and makes you want to try harder and be more?

Sunday, May 23, 2010

I Left my Bra in Omaha

Quote of the Day:  So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline.  Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It's your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it.  Let the peace of Christ keep you in tune with each other, in step with each other. None of this going off and doing your own thing. And cultivate thankfulness. Let the Word of Christ - the Message - have the run of the house. Give it plenty of room in your lives. Instruct and direct one another using good common sense. And sing, sing your hearts out to God! Let every detail in your lives - words, actions, whatever - be done in the name of the Master, Jesus, thanking God the Father every step of the way. from The Message, Colossians 3:12-17



I wore that uncomfortable bra all the way from Brainerd to Omaha.  The under wire was poking near my underarm.  It was rubbing me the wrong way!  I needed to discard that old thing. Although no one else really sees it, I'd know that what was underneath the outer covering needed to feel and look right.  Purge out the old, put on something new!

I accompanied my friend on an inward-outward journey to Omaha because what's inside of her has been rubbing her the wrong way for years.  She suffers from depression, grew up in an alcoholic home, and is working very hard at getting healthy and living an authentic life.  She was willing to go alone and meet with a highly skilled therapist who lives there.  I thought about how hard that would be, to face your inner demons, then go to a hotel room all alone at night.  I offered to be her travel companion. I gave her the gift of a loving friend.

While she counseled for two days for inner healing, to shed the old nettles that poked and prodded her life, I went shopping.  Yes, I experienced retail therapy.  Nothing like getting a new bra to lift your spirits.  But, I also took time for myself - read a book, took a nap.  Something many moms neglect to do.  I hadn't made myself so unavailable to my kids in years.  Their Dad had to make arrangements to be "on call" for them.  As you know, we tend to have an emergency now and then!




What's underneath your outer appearance has everything to do with the way you feel.  If it's ugly and broken, purge it, and try on something new.  If you need a professional to help you figure it out, don't be afraid to ask for help.  You deserve to have a life filled with good people, healthy living, comfort and peace.

On a related subject, Jeannie Campbell is a writer/therapist whose blog The Character Therapist is filled with great insight into people's/character's psyches.  A recent post is on the top 10 reason's characters stay in abusive relationships.  Please read it and share the info with someone who needs it. Thanks.

Journaling Prompt:  Is there something in your life that's rubbing you the wrong way?  What can you do for yourself today?  What can you do to show love to a friend?